Thursday, January 25, 2007

Um... hello?

Okay, I realize I've posted about once a month since the Bee's arrival so I'm sure some people just gave up on coming by to read, but I have come to the sad realization that no one is reading here any more. Ack! Well, there's not much I can do about it, aside from visit and comment on other people's blogs, and blog here more frequently. I'm making an effort to try both, so we'll see what happens.

What's going on? The bee is doing very well, said "bye bye" the other day (which was incredibly cute and I'm so glad Mr. Right was in the room to hear it so I wasn't just having an audio hallucination); his top right teeth are still coming in he's crawling around and pulling up on everything in sight. He fell off the bed last night, which made me feel like the worst mother of the year, because I was standing right next to him and somehow managed to miss catching him on the way down. He landed on his noggin and started crying, but was fine within a minute and back to crawling around on the bed again. He's fine this morning, although those DBTs never really go away. They're just transformed into thoughts of closed head or spinal cord injuries. Great.

We went to visit my aunt and her family for Christmas and New Years which was really lovely. In fact, it was so nice being around such a loving and warm family that it actually prompted Mr R to suggest having another child. Mr. R grew up an only child in a highly dysfunctional family with parents who were also from highly dysfunctional families. The word family never meant very much to him, seeing what his reference point was. Being with my aunt and her family, while a little unconventional (my uncle left when my youngest cousin was 4, and aunt C's partner for the past 13 years has been a woman), Mr. R was surprised to see what family could be. He thought it would be nice for the Bee to have a bother or sister. As A's results are negative, this is a possibility, although we'd have to talk with her about it first. And not anytime real soon, she's in graduate school and I'm not ready yet - the Bee will only be 10 months old next Friday. I always thought we'd only have one child, and I was fine with that but I'm starting to warm up to the idea. I waver; wondering if we're tempting fate with trying for a second when we've been so blessed to have gotten this far. We have time to think about it, I guess I'm playing the wait and see game.

On a rather sucky note, my cousin S, A's older sister, is a carrier also. While this sucks a great deal more than not being a carrier, at least she has options (IVF with PGD or egg donation). And being a carrier doesn't mean you're going to become symptomatic, so at least there's that. She's getting married in July and we're really looking forward to the wedding. We'll be flying with the Bee, but I think we'll get him his own seat this time.

He did very well on his flights to and from my aunt's City, but he was a bit squirmy. If we have him in a car seat, maybe he'll think he's in a car and take a nap. Or chill out. We'll see.

One really nice plus was a play date with Jen of Fertility Now! while visitng my aunt; she lives near my aunt's restaurant. Her son Andrew is 2 days younger then the Bee, so it was pretty cool for them to play together, although they're still pretty young to really interact. There was a lot of face touching, with Jen and I alert to be sure no eye poking happened inadvertantly. She was such a lovely woman and I really appreciated her opening her home to someone she barely knew for a little play date. I love Bloglandia! I just hope Bloglandia still likes me...

On happy notes, Thalya got a positive pregnancy test and goes next Friday for a scan, when she'll be about 6 weeks along. She had a bit of pink spotting so please go show her some love. NME is also pregnant after trying for quite a while and expects her second bundle of joy in the beginning of August. Anita is also finally expectant. Leggy is pregnant with twins thanks to embryo donation. Luo Lin just had her 20 week scan and everything looks just great. The Fisher Queen is home with her new son, as is Katie at Maybe Expectant. Demeter's Joy brought home her daughter, Yael and is loving being a first time mom. I'm so happy for you all!

So at last there are some nice things happening throughout Bloglanda, although I know there are so many more for whom I wish would be able to complete their families one way or another. I'm honored to be able to read all of your stories and I thank each of you for sharing.
Untill next time, Good Afternnon, Good Evening and Good Night.


At 1/26/2007 6:58 AM, Blogger Thalya said...

we're still reading, sweetie, but perhaps not in your stats as I mostly read by bloglines. Very nice to hear from you, it's great to hear that bee is doing so well.

At 1/26/2007 12:46 PM, Blogger luolin said...

Oh, I'm still here too, also on Bloglines, which is great for knowing the minute someone posts after taking a rest for a while!

So glad to hear all your good news.

At 1/30/2007 12:09 AM, Anonymous Jen said...

Sounds like B. is doing wonderfully (well, except for the wee tumble)!

We really enjoyed meeting you, too. Hope you all are well!

At 1/30/2007 1:52 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am reading! Don't stop telling us about little Bee. I know how hard it is to get around it now with a child at home, but it is good to catch up with some good blog friends!

At 5/03/2018 10:04 PM, Blogger Zoe Drake said...

Hello dear! Thank you so much for this wonderful blog! I think it will be very helpful for some women) I have PCOS and I know how it feels. I've been in treatment for years. Unfortunately it brought zero result. I'm currently pregnant with twins from donor egg. I should say now I have no feeling my babies are not mine genetically. To be honest I had some doubts. I didn't know how I feel about the procedure... I thought maybe I should wait and try something else and it will help me to get pregnant. But we'd found out that the likelihood of having our own children was practically zero. So ivf with donor egg was our last and only one option. I have a very 'modern' family with step parents/brothers/sisters, half siblings and step nieces and nephews etc. Genetics really means nothing to me. People who raise and love you are your true family. In the beginning my dh wasn't fully on board. We had some very serious arguments about the procedure. But when he found out I was pregnant everything in him changed! The babies I'm carrying are our children and will always be ours. It's such a hard decision to make, I know. Only you will ever know if it's right for you or not as it's not right for some people. I look at it like at usual treatment of infertility. Doctors just help you a little bit. And then you carry/ give birth/ raise - do what usual parents do. We still haven't decided whether or not we'll ever tell the babies about the donor. But we're definitely not telling anyone else how we came to be pregnant. It's only our business. I don't see something super special in it so everyone should know. These babies are mine. I really feel it and I don't make myself to do so)


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